by Derek Lovell |
There’s no doubt about it, at times, we sure can be our own worst enemies in life . There are many cycles we engage in, most often without even being conscious of the cycles. Below are 10 of the most common reasons you may be feeling stuck in life. With some understanding, motivation and self work, you will be able to work towards no longer feeling stuck or that you are not in control.
1) Lack Self-Awareness
You need to develop a core knowledge of your strengths, values and needs. This is essential to self-awareness and learning who you are. By learning to leverage your strengths and express your values, you can create the life you dream about. This is the only way to truly satisfy your needs in life. Otherwise, you will never learn to apply yourself, and you’ll never feel good about yourself.
2) Spend Too Much Time With Negative People
When you spend a lot of time with negative people, that negative energy has an impact on YOUR own life. Don’t spend your time dwelling on every negative aspect of your life or it will put you into a dark place that’s hard to get out of. Instead, try to find the best in every situation. If your life is overrun with negative people, it’s time to start replacing them with more positive influences. As you spend more time with positive people, your own energy will begin to change.
3) React Too Quickly
If you’re too quick to react, it’s easy to say something that you may have never truly meant. Friendships, romantic relationships and careers can easily be destroyed by hasty words spoken out of anger. Although patience is sometimes hard to learn, it’s an important skill to develop. Learning to slow down and develop awareness of your thoughts will help you take some time to put everything into perspective before reacting to a situation.
4) You Compare Yourself To Others
Comparing yourself to other people will only make you feel negatively about yourself, and put you in an impossible place of trying to keep up with everybody else. As long as you’re making progress toward your own goals, nobody else matters. Be grateful for what you have, and don’t worry about others.
When you procrastinate you put important tasks off for later, the problem is that those tasks are still waiting for you. Over time they pile up, and before you know it, the mountain of stress from everything you’ve been putting off until the last minute will start crashing in on you. You’ll wind up frustrated, stressed out and anxiety may begin to build. Finish things right away so that you don’t have to carry the heavy burden of stress that procrastination brings along with it.
6) Love Others More Than You Love Yourself
We need to learn to love ourselves before we can truly love others. You will never be happy until you can accept yourself and love yourself. You are the person that you spend the most time with, day in and day out. You need to accept that you are a good person, and you deserve to be loved.
7) You Put Your Needs Second to Everyone Else’s
When you put everybody else’s needs ahead of your own, you’re sending yourself a message that you’re not important. When you feel unimportant, you feel depressed, sad and unhappy. You need to make time in your schedule for yourself. You’ll find that scheduling time for yourself will make you more productive and efficient. Remember, if you don’t control your schedule, someone else will be happy to do it for you.
8) You Have Self-Imposed Expectations
Sometimes the expectations we set for ourselves are too high. Perfection does not exist. You can’t expect it from yourself or from anyone else. If you’re waiting for everything to be perfect, you will never be happy. You need to let go of the myths of perfection, and stop being afraid of not living up to your own expectations. The only way you can learn to do something new, is by trying and making mistakes.
9) Haven’t Set Goals or Dreams
If you don’t have any goals or dreams, you have nothing to look forward to. Without anything to attain or work towards, you’ll wind up frustrated and in a rut. It’s important to have goals and dreams that you can work toward so that you can create your own destiny as you watch them come into fruition.
10) Turn Down New Experiences
It’s important to experience new things or you’ll miss out on wonderful opportunities. If you’re afraid of failure, or even success, you need to find a way to overcome those fears so that you can live to your full potential. When you challenge yourself, and push yourself to the limits you will feel more fulfilled and you will experience positive changes in your life.
by Derek Lovell