by Elina St-Onge |
Is anyone else feeling it? It seems like there is this build up of energy on our planet at this time, more so than ever before. Everyone I talk to is sorting through personal challenges and forced to look at their egos -myself included! We are literally being pushed to the max so we can let go of the thought patterns and limiting beliefs that weigh us down. Intense, yet beautiful times!
Cosmically speaking, even the sun is currently blasting a powerful solar storm at Earth. What does that have to do with anything? Well, considering the fact that we are all made of energy, high vibrating cosmic energies affect us.
They bring to the surface any lower density energies that dwell within us and our planet, which explains why so much is coming to the surface at a very rapid pace. I am not much of an astrologer but we also have the mercury retrograde going on, which is apparently masterful at pushing us to go inwards.
That being said, if you feel you are going crazy, are experiencing heavy emotions, feel confused or think you are alone experiencing all of this, well YOU ARE NOT ALONE. The key is to understand that it is not a “bad” thing, nor is it a random occurrence. We are going through a major evolutionary leap of consciousness on our planet, and freeing ourselves from our own mental shackles is a huge part of it. Actually, it’s the whole point! Because it is only then that we will be able to reflect and create a more harmonious world.
This entire process has allowed me to observe some of the ways we let our egos take over and limit our ability to feel free and at peace within ourselves. Here is a list of 5 thoughts that once released, will bring us to a whole new level of freedom!
1. I am More/Less, Worthy/Worthless, Better/Worse…
Ah the belief in our separation from our Source. If you have looked into the fundamental nature of our reality through quantum physics or spirituality, you probably know -at least intellectually -that we are all one and equal at our core. So why do we often feel so separate?
For a very good reason actually: so we can have the experience of separation. Much like it’s more fun to play a video game than it is to stare at the CD, it is more enriching for the source of life to project itself into many forms. But along with the belief in our separation from source came a boat load of illusory perceptions including feelings of inferiority or superiority.
We are now pushed to let go of the thoughts in our minds that put so much effort into feeling better (or worse) about ourselves through comparison, appearances, what we do externally etc. When we can truly see how this effort stems from us feeling separate and inadequate as we already are, we can then recognize it as an illusion and let it go.
Separation isn’t real. Scientifically; it isn’t true. Spiritually; it isn’t true. Experientially; it pulls us away from feeling whole and at peace from being truly who we are. It blocks our natural desire to share our gifts with the world by making it into a personal loss or gain game. Imagine the freedom in letting ourselves be who we truly are with no second thought or idea that one must chase after self-worth. Now feel it! This is our true essence.
“Deep down inside the shy person or this person who is suffering from this sense of inferiority, there’s the desire, the unexpressed desire to be superior. And inside the person who acts superior who seems to have a big confident ego, is always the hidden fear that he might be inferior. And his whole acting out is to compensate for that hidden fear of being inferior.” – Eckhart Tolle
2. The Truth is “Out There”
I need my guru! I rely on the news to know what to feel/believe about world events. The only way for me to gain knowledge is by reading what “knowledgable” people have to say!
The tendency to always seek out for knowledge instead of reaching in; that’s one worth letting go of. There is great information out there, no doubt about that! And there is also misleading information. But this doesn’t matter as much as developing trust in our own intuition about the information we are exposed to.
For us to be able to see clearly and not have anything interfere with how we process information, we need to let go of the interference! That includes fears, prejudices, judgmental thoughts, self-doubt and how we tend to let emotional reactions take over our ability to observe from a neutral state. I understand the passion for finding truth, but in my own experience, I have found that the most important thing was weeding out every fear-based belief and reaction that came in between me and my ability to simply OBSERVE and FEEL what rings true to me.
“The truth about life and lie about life is not measured by others but by your intuition, which never lies.” – Santosh Kalwar
3. I Am Not “On Purpose”, I Must Find “My Purpose”
We do have a purpose, and we’re in it right now! What I mean by that, is that purpose isn’t a destination, it is the very thing we came on this planet to do: experience, learn, play, evolve, create… and whether we are consciously aware of it or not; that’s what we are always doing!
Our purpose isn’t a goal, it is an ongoing process. Every moment we are in is purposeful, because within it lies the possibility -or should I say inevitability to 1.Experience life 2.Grow and 3.Continue the unfoldment of our journey.
Sure, it is possible to hit stagnant periods in our lives. But even those are purposeful since the feeling of stagnancy is here to make us aware of whatever it is we are holding on to that is keeping us from moving fluidly and peacefully through our journey.
“But I want to accomplish something grand with my life! I want to make an impact, I want to follow my passion…” This is all noble and good, but first and foremost, we need to observe whether or not those statements come from a feeling of inadequateness or feeling that we are not where we should be in this very moment. Because we are!
Once we let go of all of the extra thoughts, rigid expectations and judgments that cloud our natural state of completeness, there will be nothing stopping us from sharing our gifts to the world. From this effortless state of being, it will happen naturally. And no, it doesn’t need to “look a certain way” : )
“Do trees have to try hard to purify the air? Does the sun have to try hard to light up the sky? Of course not… they simply do because it is their natural state and gift to do so. Being on purpose does not require anything more than to BE who we already are. In our natural state, we will contribute to humanity and the planet just like every other aspect of nature already is.”
4. I Can Make Mistakes
I usually end each bullet point with a quote… but I can’t wait with this one:
“If babies held the same tendency toward self-criticism as adults, they might never learn to walk or talk. Can you imagine infants stomping, ‘Aarggh! Screwed up again!’ Fortunately, babies are free of self-criticism. They just keep practicing.” – The Way of the Peaceful Warrior
Here’s an analogy: If the road you took led to a dead-end, NO PROBLEM! Now you know this road leads to a dead end. You can now add that map to your internal GPS. It wasn’t a waste of time, it wasn’t a mistake; you learned from walking down that road. You are now more experientially rich. You visited places you would have never visited if you took another “easier” direction. Honour that, let go of judgment.
We are not here to go from A to B in a straight line, we are here to experience infinite possibilities, and there isn’t a “wrong” one. And if similar dead-ends keep showing up in your life, it’s probably because you resist the most important lesson: quit judging so much! After all, it’s when we let go of judgment and re-enter a neutral state that we can truly learn from our experiences and deepen our connection to who we truly are.
The freedom we feel once we stop beating ourselves up to fit a narrow path of “perfection” is really, really amazing. So stop, breathe and know that everything is perfect no matter the outcome. There are no mistakes, only experiences. You live, you learn ♫
(If you struggle with the fear of making mistakes, click here to listen to a talk and meditation on the issue.)
5. Shooting the Messengers: “It’s Your Fault!”
It is easy to point fingers out there when something is upsetting us. But when we understand that we are also here on earth to learn, grow and wizen up, we can’t keep ignoring the fact that we also have some work to do on ourselves.
By work, I mean OBSERVING. Observing our patterns. Observing what keeps repeating in our lives to see what it is trying to tell us. Noticing what’s driving us. Is it fear? Is it resentment? Is it the avoidance of something we are afraid to deal with, or an emotion we are afraid to feel again? What are we trying to defend?
When you shift your approach to life from “searching for the one to blame” to “searching for the lesson to learn,” you experience a HUGE level up in how free you feel. The events or people our egos would think to blame are actually the messengers, bringing us a letter saying “hey, you really got a sensitivity/disempowering belief about yourself there, investigate what it’s all about. P.S. I love you.”
The way we have been conditioned to look at it is: “If it is uncomfortable, I must avoid. If it hurts, I must blame the trigger. If I’m afraid, that is because the world is a scary place.” I know it seems almost like a second nature to judge uncomfortable feelings and seek to avoid them at all cost. I am going through this myself. but I can also say from experience that allowing myself to feel what I feel and investigating what is the root of my trigger -as opposed to simply blaming what/who brought it up –has brought me the greatest freedom I have ever experienced.
So here’s a new way to look at freedom. It’s not a positive-thinking technique. It’s not about avoiding anything and chasing after something else. It’s not about skipping the bumpy road and the button pushers. It’s about getting rid of those buttons! Otherwise it’s like blaming the fire for the gasoline you carry yourself. When we know ourselves to be the creator of our reality -not the victim -everything changes!
“These messengers are easy to identify because they materialize as any event or person’s behavior that upsets us. We were invited to do our best not to “shoot the messenger.” Accordingly, we “dismiss the messenger” and in the same breath acknowledge that the value of the upsetting experience is in the message, not its carrier. We don’t blame the mail carrier for bills that are delivered, just as we don’t blame a mirror for what it reflects. Likewise, it’s pointless reacting to reflections of our unintegrated emotional charges.” – Michael Brown – The Presence Process
Here is a great talk and guided clearing meditation to help get to the root of our emotional reactions and clear them:
Useful Tip To Choose Freedom Everyday:
To end this article, I wish to share with you a tip that is personally helping me choose freedom everyday. Whenever you are obsessing over certain thoughts, are caught up in worry or are battling with your mind, ask yourself this powerful question:
“Is This Freeing Me, Right Now?”
If it feels constrictive in your body, let it go, breathe it out and choose freedom.
If your thoughts are attached to a deeper issue within yourself, you can assist yourself through guided clearing meditations such as the one in the video above. But ultimately, it will all come down to a choice between the freedom of this moment and the constriction of being caught up in the mind.
Choosing freedom will not necessarily cause you to stop doing anything about your challenges, but will release you from the unnecessary mental turbulence that is pulling you away from the peace of this moment and clouding your ability to act intuitively anyways.
“Maybe the mind is waiting for you to choose freedom, so that it can have a rest.” – Mooji
by Elina St-Onge