by Nikkie Gray |
I have been listening to my spirit guides since 2009. Mind you, if you asked them they would tell you that I have heard them my whole life, I just never listened. You can label them anyway that resonates with you. Some like higher self, intuition, angels, conscience or even just spirit but I have always preferred the term Guides. I believe that connecting with our own inner voice is powerful and necessary.
How I learned to hear my spirit guides was through a workshop I took. The steps were simple; the hard part was trusting and weeding out my ego. Like mastering all things, these techniques will take time and dedication. I believe all of us have the ability to do this with practice and patience.
Steps to Follow
The first thing is to let go of any doubting belief systems that you have in place. If you believe you are not capable of this, chances are you are not at this time. You will be once you change your state of mind. The techniques will still be there waiting for you when you are ready.
After letting go of doubt, the second step is to know nothing is your imagination. This will also help you to let go of any worry that you are not hearing correctly or that you are going crazy.
How will you be hearing? Well, the short answer is in your mind. It will sound like you as in your own thoughts. You will not be hearing with your ears. It’s not like some voice will pipe up from the chair in the corner of the room and say, “Hey there, this is your guide speaking.” Although it would make things really funny and a whole lot easier, that’s not how it works.
Pay attention to your thoughts. When thinking to yourself, asking questions or you are going about your day to day life pay attention to what your thoughts are specifically saying. If you hear “you”, “we” or your name… that’s it.
For example, if I’m having a hard time with something I’ll hear in my head, “you can do this!” In my opinion, this is something else outside of yourself speaking to you. Another example is when I ask questions in my head and I hear, “you already know the answer to this.” If it was me speaking in my head, I would say “I.”
Sometimes words will not always be the form of communication they use. It can be a whole range of things such as pictures, symbols, memories, points of references from movies, shows, books you’ve read or my favourite, synchronicity! Things will come into your mind randomly that you need to pay attention to especially things that repeat and connect. For example, I know about the suffering that is going on in the world. This was causing me a lot of frustration.
All of a sudden one day I started to hear a scene from one of ‘The Simpsons Tree House of Horror’ episodes. It was the one where the billboards come alive and Lisa discovers that by looking at them they were giving them power and so to defeat them, the town of Springfield had to stop looking at them while Lisa sings her song, “Just Don’t Look.” Well I kept hearing the song playing in my head for days. I then watched a Russell Brand compilation where he talks about not paying attention to the bad and focusing on what you want and solutions and that was the validation I needed to know it was them trying to tell me something. I began to focus with understanding and more importantly, the world I wanted to live in.
One of the most important things when trying to connect is having validation which you can definitely ask for. My guides know that if they are giving me messages and they accompany it with synchronicity, it will be the validation I need if I’m having trouble believing or listening. You can use whatever form of validation works best for you.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions or ask if you are hearing correctly. Know that wherever we get our intuition from whether its spirit guides or our higher self or even God, know that the messages are there to help and don’t take it to a place of fear, but rather know that it’s coming from a place of love. Also, keep in mind they have a sense of humour. One time while I was smudging my home, I suddenly heard the Ghostbusters theme song playing in my head. I had a good laugh about it.
There’s an easy exercise you can do to help you connect. I did this exercise at the beginning of the workshop I took. You will need a piece of paper and a pen. You can do it with a friend or alone. You or your friend will write down a series of one word questions and you have to immediately write down the first thing that comes to mind.
Remember all the previous steps listed above and go with it. I’ve heard that switching from your predominate hand may help greatly with this. The questions are as follows: “Male or Female,” “Name,” “Age,” “Appearance” and “Any Messages.” You can add or change the questions however you like. When I did this exercise, a friend of mine who recently passed came through. Loved ones who have passed on can also guide us as well as animals.
I’ve been actively listening for about 5 years now, but I am no master and I argue occasionally because I’m either having a hard time believing or don’t agree with the guidance. Don’t feel bad if you do the same. Just know that our guides are here to assist. Opening yourself to this gift will take time and practice but after awhile it will become second nature. I hope my steps have been helpful.
For more in depth information on how to connect with spirit guides, types of spirit guides and more, check out this ‘Ask Teal’ video.
by Nikkie Gray