It seems to me that living a whole life, a life dedicated to moving towards a form of spiritual enlightenment and maximum health, has its drawbacks too. Now, I am aware that beginning an article with a negative sentence is risky – but don’t click away just yet.
Everything I currently read is about how to improve the mind, the body and the soul, with a heavy focus on positivity. We have all suddenly become passengers on this journey to personal fulfilment, which undoubtedly, is wonderful. However in my opinion, whilst riding this unicorn of personal development, it is greatly important to be accepting of the inevitable difficulties involved too.
Six years ago I travelled to Australia and this is where my journey to well-being began. Up until this point, I had unwittingly harboured a terrible outlook. I was quietly convinced that I was cursed, bad things had, and would continue to happen to me. Thankfully, this belief was gradually replaced with a positive and excited view of the world, and of myself too.
The change in mindset was liberating, and thanks to reading The Secret, as we all did, I suddenly had the tools to create an amazing life. However six years later, although yes my life is of course wonderful, I’m still very much the person I was 7 years ago.
There seems to be such pressure for us to suddenly become amazing versions of ourselves, that realising we haven’t changed drastically feels like failure. And to make things worse, there’s nobody to blame for this failure, but ourselves.
A positive attitude seems to be the current size zero trend. Social media is awash with pretty, pastel coloured quotes about how wonderful life is, which often can be uplifting, but can occasionally bring about well-being-guilt. A case of ‘why is the rest of the world skipping on a rainbow, when sometimes I’m grumpy?’ The road to a positive mind, is a long one, with inevitable stumbles. If, at the start of my journey, I’d realised that stumbles were perfectly acceptable, I suspect I may have regained my balance slightly quicker.
This attitude of respecting and developing our inner and outer beings is a life changing one – and when we meet like minded people, it’s wonderful to have this new, common ground. However, it has also become a distance between people. As we all know, we connect well with people with whom we share common ideas and beliefs.
However without meaning to, we all silently judge those who are sabotaging their mental and physical health.
We frown at our family members because their shopping trolleys don’t contain maca powder or quinoa flakes. We gasp at the parents who take their children to McDonalds, silently wishing we could swoop to the rescue with our live-saving knowledge.
We also become alert for health danger at all times. It’s impossible to purchase anything that comes into contact with our bodies without analysing the hazard potential of the item. No more quick sprint around the supermarket, instead it’s ‘how likely is it that this Fairy Liquid will give me cancer?’ This thought process is not only time consuming but it also inevitably leads to a sizeable dent in the wallet.
It seems that we are nudging our way into an era of a collective consciousness based on health and happiness. However we must remember that minds, especially collective minds, tend to benefit more from a steady development as opposed to a drastic change.
I’m a firm believer in the importance of positive thought and I’m happy to be on this path with so many others. All I ask is that we tread lightly and be careful not to create an underlying belief that we are flawed.
The journey to personal fulfilment will bring us unimaginable joy but it will also bring feelings of failure and inadequacy.
Rather than attempting to appear the model of personal development at all times, perhaps we could collectively acknowledge the negatives, so they don’t silently sabotage our delicate, inquisitive beings.