Most of the teachings on LAO tells us of moving into joy – so that we can attract more joy. Just go in the direction of joy!
But it omits the vital part of healing – and for many of us, who do believe we create our own reality – we are left with the fear that if we give into our pain and negative emotions – we are going to attract more pain and negative emotions.
We can end up in a cycle of running from pain – only to have situations crop up again and again where we feel this pain. We can become scared of it – and feel like we’re on a constant emotional rollercoaster, unable to maintain a high vibration – and beating ourselves up because we can’t.
If we say we are healing, are we just going to be brought more to be healed? When will it end?
As soon as you stop resisting.
What we resist, persists.
Instead we can say, we are going to OWN the way we feel. We are going to OWN our pain. Our sadness. Our frustration. Our regret. Our guilt. Our shame. Our anger. All of it.
Our natural state is wellbeing. We are made of love, we came from love – and everything else is a separation. We are always finding our way back to it. We are usually in our own way and fighting the very path that leads us back.
If you can sit with your painful emotions, without wishing them to be any different. Without running from them. With full acceptance and trust that you can cope with this. Without playing into the stories in your head. The memories your mind is bringing up, the arguements about why this is wrong. Why this shouldn’t have happened, dreaming up the perfect life you could have had. If you could just control everything. But if you can just sit (or stand. Wherever you are), and breathe. And own this pain.
Then you will allow the painful emotions to integrate. They are trying to find their way home. Fear is a separation from love. We don’t run from it. We own it, we make it whole again.
To go into your painful emotions and indulge in them, goes against most of what we have been taught. We live in a society where we are taught to suppress them. Fully feeling these emotions is even more painful. But what you will find is..
Once you have found the courage to just allow. Just accept. Just breathe through it and allow it to integrate. Without wishing for it to be different.
You will lose the fear. You will gain faith in yourself to deal with this.
But we must go into the unknown, embracing pain – at a time when we are scared to death of that pain! It isn’t easy. We fear it will destroy us (further!) But once we stop running?
We can truly heal. We find freedom. We experience our true power. We lose our fear of our own emotions! We are free. Handling your own emotions is not stuffing the painful ones down the side of the sofa – and putting insane amounts of energy into feeling joy. It is being brave enough to fully feel what you have been running from.
The relief. The freedom. The joy that we will experience when we do this. Far outweighs any external efforts. And when we truly heal like this?
The situations fall away, we are no longer a match for more of this pain. Instead of our painful emotions constantly roaring for attention, constantly bringing us situations that ARE a match, constantly bloody harassing us and casting a shadow on our entire day, week, years, lives…they have integrated. They have come home.
Like a naughty child, you have given them the full attention and love and acceptance that they needed. Were screaming out for.
Like a naughty child, your attempts at control would only ever work for so long. Like a naughty child, they will rebel! Control is fear, love is the answer.
This is mindfulness, this is Buddhas teachings, this is meditation, this is yoga. This is all the methods to get you out of your head, to the space between thoughts – and putting you in touch with your body. Your emotional body.
It’s very hard to put into words.
If you allow the present moment, without wishing it to be different. Give into it. Accept it. Right there is your freedom. Your healing.
And i’m not gonna lie, it can feel like you’re walking to your death. It is scary.
Remember the caterpillar, she must think she is creating her own ending. But look at the reward for her trust.
Do the thing that scares you the most. Go into your own pain.
All the answers are there.
Freedom is there.
Your transformation is there.
Go into your own pain and just breathe.
For you have no idea who you can become once you do this. No idea of your true greatness. Your true power.
Imagine not been scared of pain! Imagine embracing it in the future because of the shifts that come afterwards.
We need to stop abandoning ourselves.
Try saying these words whilst you breathe through the pain “I am completely here with you now. I will not abandon you”.
The path to the light is often travelled by people who went through hell to get there.
There is more pain in wishing things to be different. Than there is in the actual pain. There is more pain in fighting the pain than the actual pain.
We can cope with the pain. We can.
And afterwards, once we truly know how to work with our emotions, we will experience true power.
Then it’s time to create. Then we follow our dreams, fast and far.
Once we come into alignment things can happen at the speed of light.
Blessings everyone. I could write forever! I will wrap it up for now. I hope this helps somewhat!
Much love xx Sarah xx