by Danielle Fagan |
Working on the inner child has been “trendy” for a number of years but it seems as though a lot of people still aren’t entirely sure what their inner child is or why they should listen to it.
Your inner child is that mini-you that never has to grow up. It’s the part of you that retains the beautiful innocence and untainted perspective of the world. It’s also the part of you that we often forget about. It’s the part of you that gets swept under the rug whenever someone asks you to get into the not-so-pretty details of your childhood. It may be surprising to hear, but from an energetic standpoint, your inner child very much exists and can be communicated with through meditation or visualization.
There is a great deal of memory from the early years of our lives. It is during childhood that we formulate perceptions of relationships, women, men, food, trust, love, and acceptance, or absorb those perceptions from the ones that raised us.
Major events that transpired during childhood or feelings about them affect us every single day of our lives even if we don’t consciously remember them. Negative beliefs, emotions and memories from childhood can create blocks or resistance later on in life. That is why it is so crucial to take the time to listen and connect to your inner child. Inner child work can help us access and heal the root cause of many problems we face in our everyday lives.
I’ve listed 5 steps below on how to communicate with your younger self effectively:
1. Find a Safe Space
You need to find a place that is free of distractions so that you can focus on the messages and feelings that you will receive during this process. Try your best to find a comfortable, quiet space for the next 30 minutes.
2. Create a Safe Space Within You
A child is not going to approach you if he or she does not feel safe. Intend to have an open mind that is accepting, loving, and completely free of judgment.
Your inner child will look just like you at any age during your childhood. When he or she appears in front of you, take note of how they look, what the expression is on their face, what they’re wearing and their body language. It is totally normal if your inner child doesn’t want to speak to you for the first couple of sessions. If that’s the case, it’s because you need to develop a sense of trust with them. Tell them that they are safe to say what they need to say.
In the beginning, your inner child will need to speak with you. They may show you a memory or a feeling, or they may speak directly to you. Take note of any impressions that you receive during this process. Don’t interrupt them. Just listen!
5. Respond Lovingly
After you’ve listened carefully to what your inner child has to say, respond to them with as much gentleness, love, and acceptance as you can. Speak to them as though you were speaking to a young child.
6. Connect With Them
This is bonding time. Look your inner child in the eyes. Let them know how much they are loved and cared for. Forge a loving, trusting relationship with them.
7. Express Gratitude
Thank them for communicating their feelings with you. Express appreciation and love as you finish the session
Make a habit of checking in with your inner child to see how she or he is feeling. If you feel that there is more that they need to express, repeat this exercise daily for two weeks. Once you’ve done the healing work between you, keep up your relationship with them. Ask them for advice and share beautiful moments with them.
Remember to connect with them often because they are a part of you. They can offer great advice, love, curiosity and playfulness if you give them the chance to. Getting in touch with the inner child can help you remember who you really are, your passions, and what’s truly important in life.
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by Danielle Fagan