by Mark DeNicola |
Human beings are opinionated. We go out to eat at a restaurant and we cannot help but develop an opinion of that restaurant – the food, the service, the atmosphere, etc.. Once our opinion is formulated, we then use it as the basis for any future decisions relating to that restaurant, such as whether or not to go there again, or whether we choose to recommend it to a friend.
In many ways, our ability to develop an opinion can be quite helpful. It helps us navigate through life by avoiding redundancy and allows us to surround ourselves with what we enjoy more often. However, in some cases our opinions can also become quite limiting to our experience, particularly when we choose to hold onto them for extended periods of time.
Sticking with the restaurant analogy, how many times have you later gone to a restaurant you once held a negative opinion towards and were surprised by how much you enjoyed it? Everything has the ability to change in this world, people and their opinions included, so why not maintain an open mind and give everything the benefit of the doubt? Things aren’t always as we remember them.
We discuss this exact topic in the latest episode of our new YouTube series ‘These Guys.” We discuss some of the potential reasons for why we love to hold onto particular opinions, the downsides to doing this, and an alternative way to formulate opinions. Check it out:
Summary Of Points
- If we ever find ourselves the “victim” to something, we have a tendency to want to hold onto that and use it as fuel against whoever wronged us.
- This victim state enables many of us to stay in comfortable states of stagnancy rather than choosing to move forward with life by learning from but letting go of the past.
- It seems to have become part of our culture that it’s more fun to be engaged in the negative side to things rather than being open to them changing.
- Be mindful of formulating an opinion too quickly. Fully understand something before casting it into a particular category.
- Take a look at the relationships in your own life and see whether or not you are unnecessarily holding onto an old opinion of an individual.
- Example: The change in Matthew McConaughey. Originally type cast and seen as a heartthrob with little depth, has now become an oscar winning actor.
- Being open to change doesn’t mean that we enable the justification of reckless behaviour. We instead choose to be open to an individual changing but can still make the choice to not surround ourselves with them if they continue to portray old unwanted behaviour.
Be sure to check out our previous episodes from season 1 of ‘These Guys’
by Mark DeNicola